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December 25, 2011
Stop Trying So Hard
How learning to let go can lead you to what you want.
“Practice letting go of always naming and labeling” Dr. Wayne Dyer
written by Wendy Muhammad, The Authenticity Coach (tm)
As intellectuals we pride ourselves on how well we package, organize and label things. We all want to feel and appear smart. So, we address every issue. We confront every person who doesn’t align with our thinking. We address every adversary. We tackle every problem by packaging them and designing a solution. We never let anybody out do us. We worry about how we look. We always have to be a step ahead. We wrestle down our competitors. And we make most of our decisions in response to what someone else is doing or in anticipation of what we think they may do.
All this tackling, confronting, worrying, focusing, naming, packaging and labeling simply magnifies what we don’t want and gives us more of the same. Then we get so sick and frustrated that we become exhausted. We’re exhausted because we’re trying so hard and focusing so intently and working like crazy. Our physical bodies are worn out and our lives represent everything we don’t want instead of what we dream about. And finally, after all the tackling, confronting, worrying, focusing, naming, packaging and labeling ceases to make us feel good, we resort to crying, fussing and just plain worrying. We search out new ways to tackle, confront, package and label. This vicious cycle can go on for years and even generations. If only we had the courage to truly let go.
See I like to say that faith ain’t faith until it’s all we have left. When there are no more choices, when our hands are tied, when we can’t move, when we have done all we can do, after we have built a mound of what we don’t want around us, and after our lives are filled with the remnants of focusing on what we don’t want, some of us are smart enough to finally let go. Letting go doesn’t mean that you let go of the dream or desire. It means that you have finally decided to stop trying so hard. It means that you have finally decided to Allow. See some of us die from dis-ease and the stress caused by avoiding the simple fact that allowance and alignment should be our first choice of action. We are so unaware of how all the worrying and naming and packaging and labeling is effecting us. See, we are doing all that busy-work because we are simply afraid to sit still and Allow. We don’t even realize that we are willingly throwing away our real power. The power of the moment is in the mystery. Through the Art of Allowing we can tap into that mystery. The Tao Te Ching says that the mystery itself is the doorway to understanding.
What is the mystery? The mystery is the answer to the problem. The mystery is our dreams becoming reality. The mystery is “why is this happening?”. The mystery is “when will it happen?”. The mystery is “where will it take place?” The mystery is the part of the creative process that we are chasing when we find ourselves tackling, confronting, worrying, focusing, naming, packaging and labeling. The mystery is the power that fuels the manifestation. Our job is simply to “know” that what we desire will become reality if we focus on allowing the mystery to unfold.
The Art of Allowing is about paying attention to the way that we feel in any moment. This moment is a very important moment because in this moment, where all of our feeling is, is where all of our power is. Understanding our emotions and how they are directing our choices is the key. In any given situation, instead of resorting to confronting, worrying, focusing, naming, packaging and labeling, we should pay attention to our emotional state. Our emotions are our indicator of where we are in relationship to what we want. When we don’t feel good we are separate from what we desire. The worse we feel, the further away we are. Our emotions don't have any power except that we take action. All of our real power is in our choice of thought. All of our power is in our ability to focus our mind upon those things that cause us to feel good when we focus upon them. That's the power of our emotions. We should use our imagination to make ourselves feel better which in essence will soften our vibration and shorten the distance between where we are and what we desire. That softer vibration will then allow us to think better and make better choices. See talking ourselves into feeling better creates more alignment than worrying, naming, labeling and packaging.
When we use our emotions to help us practice the art of allowing we are aligning ourselves with our true purpose. Our emotions hold the key. We must do away with the thinking that we have to push against, package, label, control, confront and name what we don’t want. Pushing against those unwanted things never pushes them away, all it does is set us up for resistance that keeps us vibrationally apart from the things that we do want.
The idea is to pay attention to the way we feel. Awareness is one of the foundational principles of Emotional Intelligence. It’s the reason that a person with a high EQ (Emotional Quotient) can be wildly more successful than a person with a high IQ (Intellectual Quotient). The key is to reach for a better feeling thought. Once you feel better, then make the decision.
See our emotions are an indicator of where we are vibrationally. In other words, they can help us to determine how far away we are from what we want. When we practice the art of allowing we become a conduit for a force greater than ourselves. The Force enjoys working through us, but we have to allow It. We have to allow ourselves to be good conduits by understanding our emotions and using them to assess where we are in relationship to what we want. Remember our desires are not random thoughts but the Universe’s way of whispering in our ear. Those whispers are the pathways to our authentic self. The better we feel, the closer we can get to the mystery. And learning to use our emotions can help us to do just that.
Wendy Muhammad, is a Certified Emotional Intelligence Coach and creator of the Authenticity Coaching process. She specializes in helping Emerging Leaders and Entrepreneurs. She is a Thought Leader and Entrepreneur with four successful businesses who has helped thousands of entrepreneurs and managed over $160 million in projects and business start-ups. To learn more about the power of Emotional Intelligence and the Authenticity Movement, visit www.TheAuthenticYouOnline.com or send an email to Wendy@TheAuthenticYouOnline.com.
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4/25/10 |
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written by Wendy Franklin Muhammad, The Authenticity Coach (TM)
"Just as a clinched had receives no gifts, a closed mind receives no knowledge!" K.C. The Prosperator
Part of my personal mission is to think outside the box. That addition to my personal mission statement was born out of my desire to escape labels and societal packaging. It was also born out of my desire to stay open to new ideas and ways of thinking that are contrary to my own.
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3/13/10 |
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 Advertisers often use our addiction to this mindset to help sell products by suggesting that we will be better than the next person if we use this product or drive that car or live in this neighborhood. The standards or charactaristics of superioririty are often very trendy and change quickly. They leave us constantly scrambling to both consciously and subconsciously live up to these unattainable standards of false excellence. It even affects our relationships and how we treat one another. So, the whole way we handle one another is based on differences and the assumptions that we make about that person as a result of our inordinate obsession with these differences. We make assumptions about people because of their skin color, their eye color, their job, age, status and children, for example; ignoring or never even caring about who and what they truly are.
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3/6/10 |
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 written by Wendy Franklin Muhammad, The Authenticity Coach
"Patience is the companion of wisdom" Saint Augustine (354 AD - 430 AD)
What does it mean when someone tells you to "be patient"? Are you patient in some aspects of your life but impatient in others? Are you damaging your productivity and success by being impatient? Do you get angry when things aren't moving as quickly as you would like? Are you upset when others are not as quick witted as you? Do you often rush to judgement? Are you trying to do too many things at one? Is your brain filled with senseless chatter that you are too rushed to deal with? Well, you are not alone. Let's talk about patience and why it is so important.
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3/7/10 |
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Written by Wendy Franklin Muhammad, The Authenticity Coach ™
Do you find yourself in a perpetual emotional whirlwind when it comes to money? Are all your financial transactions couched in a bed of emotions? If you get upset or disappointed, do you have to buy yourself something? If you see your neighbor with a new car do you find yourself wandering aimlessly into a car lot the following weekend? Do you race to your favorite department store every weekend fiending for the latest designer trends? Are you emotionally focused on making money or spending money?
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3/3/10 |
How to Use Allowance and Desire to Get The Most Out of Life |
 Written by Wendy Franklin Muhammad, The Authenticity Coach ™
I was just on my way out the door to work out when something stopped me. I spend time when I’m working out thinking about my desires and visualizing what I want to manifest. I was beginning that familiar mental process as I laced up my gym shoes. At that moment, I thought, “What is beyond manifestation?” I ran back to jot a few notes down and I’m still sitting here writing and sharing with you at this moment. I guess a creative work out was in order!
I have also been thinking a lot lately about how so much of the popular human development teaching that is out there focuses on desire and manifestation. We are told to visualize our desires and to hold the thought of them in our mind. We are coached to keep gratitude journals and be grateful about all that we are receiving or manifesting. We are taught to focus on what is showing up as opposed to what is not showing up.
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3/6/10 |
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Written by Wendy Franklin Muhammad, The Authenticity Coach ™
In honor of my Blog Talk Radio Show on the Economic Crisis with world renowned financial expert, Bro. Bedford, I decided that it would be a good idea to rattle your cage a bit about money. Ok now, let me rattle your cage a bit.
They say that an estimated 2% of the world’s population controls approximately 96% of the material wealth in the entire world. What keeps all of us from being in that 2%? Well I realized that what’s stopping us is our Po-Mouth Mentality.
Let’s talk about money for a minute. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to discover that in our society, money is very important. Moreover, money is one of the main focuses and topics of discussion in our world today. Most of our entire lives revolve around making and acquiring money. I was studying this subject and wrote down this statement from a thesis paper called Abundance and Happiness, written by one of my coaching colleagues:
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2/28/10 |
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Understanding the Intelligence of Your Heart
Written by: Wendy Franklin Muhammad, The Authenticity Coach ™
 Our perceptions, mental and emotional attitudes, immune system, reaction times, and decision-making abilities are all directly related to the health of our heart. Cultivating heart intelligence begins with recognizing that at any point in time we have the opportunity to recognize that there are many different perspectives to a situation, and that our perceptions, thoughts, choices, and actions, condition the events and outcomes of our lives. Learning to raise our EQ or our level of emotional intelligence can improve our heart intelligence and increase our heart-brain connection.
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3/6/10 |
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Written by Wendy Franklin Muhammad
“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.” Benjamin Spock
We live in a highly competitive world. Society gives us the green light to constantly look for ways in which we can be better than the next person or to get more for what we give. We compete for jobs, friends, mates, money, homes, attention, compliments, love, you name it. So, when we hear statements that tell us to focus on our creative side, we find ourselves challenged. In fact, we’ve deemed our competitive nature as a survival mechanism that we tweak and enhance unconsciously. It’s hard for us to think about being creative or, furthermore, to even comprehend what that truly means. The first thing that comes to mind is the artistic form of creation, which is certainly a valid and important aspect of this concept. But what I’m referring to here, is a way of thinking that aligns us with the Mind of our Creator; one that will cause us to rise above any circumstance or intellectual challenge; one that is inclusive and reliant upon the flow of the Universe; One that requires trust.
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3/6/10 |
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republished by Written by Wendy Franklin Muhammad, The Authenticity Coach
On Wednesday, June 25, 2009, the world received shocking news of the sudden death of our beloved entertainment icon, Michael Jackson. I was filled with shock and disbelief as I read the text message from my friend. I heard that TMZ broke the story and soon learned that radio stations around the country were playing his music in acknowledgement of his death. I turned on CNN, who respectfully refused to prematurely report the news of his passing, The word was that he was in a coma. I clung on to some sign of hope. I texted another friend and asked if Michael Jackson had passed away. But, as I got quiet and contemplated on my limited understanding of the difference between cardiac arrest and a heart attack, I saw an image of his happy little spirit float away. I texted my friend back and said, “Yes, I believe he’s gone”.
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